We are so sure our kids are going to be scarred for life by
the mistakes we make --- either we feel we yell too much (and sometimes we do), or we’re just so darn impatient with them and our husbands (and sometimes we are), or we tell them to eat their vegetables all the while hoping they don’t notice our potato chip stash, or that we pray with them before meals or at bedtime but can’t remember the last time we prayed longer than the ‘help me, Lord!’ on our own. We are just positive that our kids will remember each mistake, each misjudgment, each time we seemed unfair.
But I bet you are doing many, many good things each and every day --- and those things are being soaked into your kids even more readily. Stopping your mad dash of errands to bring a homeless person lunch can speak volumes to your ever-watching kids. Slowing down to pray over a scraped knee will bring a deeper healing than just a band aid alone. That hug your kids catch you and your husband in will teach them that your relationship is the foundation of the family. That deep breath your oldest child notices you take before unleashing due consequences will model a patient control over your emotions. Coming in from a run early in the morning will show that you value the body God has given you. Gently talking on the phone to a hurting friend will stick in the memories of your child as they grow up and begin building solid relationships with their peers. A daily cup of tea and quiet time with Jesus on the front porch will paint a picture of a disciplined life and a surrendered heart.
If you are beaten up right now – by your own choices or your own words – take a deep breath, remind yourself of one or two things you’ve done right in the past couple days, thank God for the strength he gave you to do them, and ask him for the wisdom to do it again. Mom, you are a good mother. You are being held up. You are being carried. You are being strengthened. You are loving, more than you think you are, because you are being loved more than you’ll ever know.
